Episode 096 – Habits that are actually signs of resentment
Today I want to talk about habits that are actually signs of resentment.
Holding on to resentment can be bad for your mental and physical health. It can cause stress, anxiety, depression, and it can cause chronic health problems.
Do any of these bahaviours resonate with you?
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Transcript of episode
Hello loves. Today I want to talk about habits that are actually signs of resentment.
Holding on to resentment can be bad for your mental and physical health. It can cause stress, anxiety, depression, and it can cause chronic health problems.
It hurts your relationships with others, making you feel isolated, misunderstood, lonely, and can cause arguments.
It hurts your relationship with yourself causing self-doubt and self-rejection.
Unresolved resentment keeps you in a negative cycle whereas dealing with it head-on, and practicing forgiveness and letting go for your own benefits can help you to become more emotionally stable, help you grow, and help you deal with some of those chronic health issues.
Personally, I know when I leave something unaddressed I sleep badly, for instance, and that causes all sorts of issues the next day, the next few days, with elevated heart rate, dizziness, slurring of words, to name a few.
Do any of these bahaviours resonate with you?
You spend a lot of time thinking about past events, or things that have hurt you
You spend time criticising others for their actions and blame them for your hurt feelings
You often feel angry, unseen, or underappreciated, leading to passive-aggressive behaviour like snide comments, or sarcastic jokes.
You hold grudges for a long time, even when the other person has tried to apologise or make it up to you
You distance yourself from those who have hurt you, with either the silent treatment for a while or ghosting them completely, or you isolate yourself.
You tend to put yourself second and prioritise their needs over your own and then believe that they owe the same to you. You expect them to know what you need without asking, even when you don’t know what it is you need yourself.
So, a few questions to ask yourself –
1. What is making me feel this way?
2. What expectations am I putting on someone?
3. What needs do I have that are not being met?
4. How did I make the situation worse?
5. Am I willing to forgive?
6. What do I need to do to let go?
7. What lessons can I learn from this?
8. How has holding on to anger affected my life and relationships?
9. Am I willing to talk with the person in a constructive, open, and honest way?
To let go of resentment and anger, you need to be able to take accountability for your behaviour in what happened.
It’s not always easy, but it’s the difference between remaining in victim-mode, or moving into empowered and continuing on your journey of recovery.
Well, that’s it for this week.
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